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“What a delightful piece of work Chuck Lund has created! I loved reading it and am thrilled by the wonderful insights and pieces of advice he wove into his story..."

Margorie Engel, MBA Ph.D

President & CEO

Stepfamily Association ofAmerica

"..I applaud the integration of clinical and therapeutic findings...I have been looking for a stepfamily book that speaks to the male perspective...This is it and I will heartily recommend this book to my clients and colleagues.”

Chris Wucherer MSW ACSW

Stepfamily Solutions

“One of the more realistic and honest books on the market for stepparents. ..An enlightening and incredibly insightful read for anyone contemplating remarriage or a stepfamily.”

Susan Wilkins-Hubley

Founder

Second Wives Club

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Excerpts From "The Wedding Was Great, But...."

Foreword

by Francesca Adler-Baeder, Ph.D., CFLE

Director of Family Life Education

Stepfamily Association of America

Professor, Human Development and Family Studies

Auburn University

I am so impressed with this beautiful story of life, love, mistakes, challenges and hope. Although Charles Lund’s story is uniquely his, his experiences are shared in many important ways by stepfathers and stepfamilies throughout the country.

He brings life and humor to the process of creating a family after remarriage. Many men struggle in stepfamily formation since our broader culture offers little in the way of clear roadmaps. His story touches on so many of the issues that we know from research and from clinical work are a normal part of negotiating these unclear family roles and complicated family dynamics.

Rather than a preachy, here’s how to do it kind of self-help tale, his is a readable (I went through this in one sitting!), entertaining, and subtle account that will be an enjoyable and valuable resource for stepfathers and stepparents. He offers important lessons learned, seamlessly weaving together stories of personal stepparenting over two decades of family life.

I am most impressed with the honest and thoughtful way he reflects on and explains his thoughts and actions over the years as a husband, as an ex-husband, as a stepfather, as a parent, and as a man, who, through it all, is striving to build a successful, satisfying, and happy life, both as an individual, and as a member of a complex stepfamily.

I am especially struck by the central theme of the love he has for his wife as the motivation to work through the blurry lives of the stepparent/parent roles. The couple creates the stepfamily and his message of building a strong couple relationship in order to build a strong stepfamily comes through loud and clear.

Beautifully written, and powerful, The Wedding Was Great, But When Does Chuck Leave? is a love story for our time.